My weekend as matron of honor
Its Wednesday and I have some time for me to blog some more about the recent events of our lives.This past Thursday, after work, Keith and I began our sojourn in the car to Pennsylvania to participate in and attend my best friend Amanda's wedding. We arrived Friday around lunchtime in Bedford as pretty much scheduled.
After getting dressed and ready for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, we saw my mother quickly as she came home from work and spoke to her boyfriend Dave as he arrived from Wilkes Barre to attend Amanda's wedding and spend the weekend with Mom.
Keith and I attended the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. After it was all done, we asked the happy couple if they had any plans and we all agreed to go out for some drinks before turning in. We came to my home to change into more comfortable clothing, and Mom and Dave were out. Keith and I didn't think anything of it though, and proceeded to the Jean Bonnet restaurant for sparkling wine. We came home, it looked like everyone was asleep, so we went to sleep too! It was going to be a busy day tomorrow, and I was due at the hair salon at 9 am sharp.
The following morning I woke early confusedly to the sounds of my mother's car departing. I found a note in the kitchen that informed me that David inexplicably had an infection in his finger, had gone to the ER the night before with Mom, and was headed back there for a check up. The news, when I talked to Mom, was bad. Somehow he had gotten an infection during the week while grass seeding his lawn which had gotten progressively worse the last two days. A worsening of symptoms alarmed the medical staff at the local hospital, which advised him to head to Pittsburgh post haste to see a specialist. Thus, my next job was to tell Amanda and her mother that my mom and David would not be in attendence. They took it relatively well, reacting with concern for my mother and David.I had my hair done by curling it all over, the ladies and I then proceeded, after some discussion, to my place for some breakfasty items. I sent Keith out to the local Weis Market for muffins, some croissants, fruit, and juice. We then all did our makeup in my mother's bedroom, since it was better than the lighting in the church. I did Amanda's eyeliner, and helped Lindsey with her eyeliner and shadow. The ladies left, as I decided to get into my gown and then drive over. That's when disaster struck again.
My gown wouldn't zip up...or rather...it did zip up and would split in the middle. And then I remembered what my seamstress told me last year when she inexplicably replaced my zipper on my wedding gown...that the zippers in special occasion gowns aren't meant to be put on and off a lot...they tend to break because they are only good for a handful of on and off. I had spent Friday afternoon trying on the gown with a bunch of undergarments to see what looked best and now the teeth in the middle weren't interlocking.
After three attempts to undo and fix the zipper, Keith had to sew me into the gown. It took him about 45 minutes, but there I was. Finally we ran over to the church just in time for group photos. Photos were taken, I spent a good deal of my time trying to not get emotional looking at Amanda who was all girled up and frankly, radiant. I thought a lot about our childhood and talking about when we'd get married and what we'd do--and now...we were both going to be married.

The wedding proceeded with Amanda finally breaking down and crying during the vows. Amanda exited after I handed her her bouquet and gave her a kiss on the cheek. After the receiving line was complete, we ran the happy couple through the birdseed gauntlet (I got decked again too--damn, I thought I didn't have to worry about that again) and finally they got away in her foil confetti filled Sebring convertible.
Keith and I made our way to the reception, after a short pitstop at my house we followed John and Amanda around for a while as they took some reception shots and finally headed to the reception for a much needed cocktail. Or two. Or five. I also drank the champagne that my mom and Dave would have had. It was strange, because none of it had any effect. Perhaps it was the menu of chicken cordon bleu and roast beef and butter pierogies. Or the groom and bride's cake.
At the end, Keith and I helped gather up gifts, centerpieces, Amanda's bouquet, the favors and programs we had saved for my mom, Amanda's clothing from earlier in the day, emergency kits, etc. While the reception really winded down around 9:30 pm, we departed about 11 am after much last minute photo taking, conversation gabbing..Keith and I finally trudged home. I was DYING to get the dress off of me as it wasn't the most flattering and certainly wasn't comfortable by this point. Keith took a seam ripper and got me out of the dress and I was able to change into a T-shirt and fall asleep.
Next morning we prepared to clean up and pack and drop off all the miscellaneous wedding stuff our car was filled with. We got mostly packed and then ran over all the wedding stuff (bells, bouquets, and gifts). We shot the breeze, sort of a post-game wedding play, and then said goodbye. Back at my childhood home we finished packing, loaded the car, and then headed back to the scene of the rehearsal dinner for a early birthday lunch with my father, paternal grandparents, and some other family. Lunch was pleasant and fairly uneventful--I got some beautiful hot pink roses, some cards, and we all shared a cream cake.On the road, we headed to Lancaster where we spent time with Keith's family and especially our two nieces. Mackenzie and Hailey are getting so big, Hailey has the most beautiful smile, especially when she is tickled. Mackenzie is well into her terrible twos, and jealous of her little baby sister. She is certainly asserting herself as many toddlers do. Monday's drive home was as pleasant as it can be, followed by some quality time together before Keith left me to unpack and work a few extra hours.
This was my first wedding since my own wedding September 3, 2005. And this is what I figured out:
1.) Watching people take marriage vows, reminds and sort of reaffirms the vows you took with your spouse.
2.) Being a matron/maid of honor (the only other time I was in a wedding party was a flower girl at age 8) really is an honor--and its particularly memorable to be with family members as they prepare to give away their child and to be so closely entwined in the wedding excitement.
As for David, he was still in the hospital in Pittsburgh last time I heard. He has had to deal with antibiotic IVs, Percoset, and doctors telling him that he may lose the finger. I hope he is feeling better.

